We live in an age of comparison. It is so easy to hop on facebook, instagram, blogs or even look through magazines and see the people all around you with awesome, perfect, extraordinary lives. The lives we filter and crop and carefully choose to share. We often feel we are not tall enough, blonde, brunette, red-headed enough, rich enough, or skinny enough to be happy. Maybe I’m just speaking for myself here, but we often put our selves in positions of feeling incapable, and frankly, feeling sorry for ourselves. Why? Why do we do this? Because we are humans.
It’s long since been human nature to compare ourselves to those around us, our parents were always keeping up with the jones’, whoever they are. This comparison and trying to "keep up" is real, and it is unnecessary. I fell prey to this constant comparison and picking apart in the past, and once I realized and recognized what it was doing to me, I turned to writing about it on my public platform, my then fashion blog. I had the urge to be open about it with people around me because I realized I was creating a person online who didn’t really exist.
Admitting to my human nature, and my true human qualities. Yes, I break out, and yes, I have been trying to lose the same 10 pounds for almost 5 years now, but I also really, really like pizza. This openness has helped me not only keep myself in check with constant comparison, but it also helped others recognize that they are not alone in their struggles of being a human. Who you are, what you possess, and what you have to offer the world, is more than enough. How terribly boring if we were all the same, living the same lives, going after the same dreams, working the same jobs, day in and day out.
Individuality is what makes this world go round, it is what makes us all important & needed. Be grateful for yourself, for your imperfect life, and your ability to be a human. Make mistakes. Live your life. Try to recognize the things you have and be grateful for them. May we all work on giving thanks & recognizing the good in our lives, rather than focusing on the perception of other’s.
Photos for Foundation c/o Lori Romney Photography
Tara is an image consultant, stylist, & girlboss. She loves helping others look and feel their best and encouraging them to go for the things they believe in. She is the owner of Be More Collection and part owner and main designer of M1M1Klothing. On a normal day you can find her designing tee shirts, bossing models around or hanging out on the set of music videos with her closest friends. She loves all things fashion and thinks time should be spent with the people you love doing the things that you're passionate about. Visit www.misstarabrooke.com to find out more.